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10 Fun, Flirty and Fabulous Wedding Ideas

If the tried and true conventional wedding is not for you then you might be interested in one of the suggested weddings or your creative juices may be stimulated.
The main point is to have a wonderful wedding that suits both you and your lucky spouse’s personality!

Dr. Elena Bien

Elena and Hubby George sharing a special moment on their wedding day!!!

  1. If you celebrate Christmas. Set your date for December 24th, and have your wedding and reception at an elegant bed and breakfast that will allow you and your guests to decorate the tree as part of your wedding celebration. After the tree decoration, your closest friends and family can enjoy an elegant full course meal.  Make sure that the officiators of your marriage finalize your ceremony at midnight.   This will become the best and most romantic Christmas!
  2. Personalize your wedding. Get married in the exact place where you met. I have a client who met her beloved at a night club and they chose that same club to tie the knot.
  3. Beach lovers adore weddings on the beach followed by a luau .
  4. Summer fun can include a huge family and friends picnic/marriage.
  5. Skydivers delight! Get married hand in hand as you jump out of a plane and into your new life together.
  6. Day and marriage at the spa. Be pampered and relaxed as you and your spouse-to-be take in the usual spa treatments as well as bring in your new life together.
  7. Art galleries are for lovers. Wine, cheese and clergy make this an ideal place to get married.
  8. It is so romantic for book lovers to say the "I do’s "at their favorite place - the book store.
  9. A camping trip complete with roasted marshmallows and the preacher make this type of wedding unique and special.
  10. A couple I know that are into charities invited all of their guests to a house-building event followed by their wedding ceremony. They asked all of their guests to donate their time to the house-building project for the poor, instead of giving the couple a wedding gift.

 

End the Gender Wars (10 Ways to Bring Peace to Yourself and Find True Love) Couples in Love Animation
1. Acknowledge your wounds (to yourself) from past encounters or relationships, and get into therapy and/or do the needed healing work before you date or involve yourself with anyone romantically. Most people do not do the required work on themselves after they have been hurt. They push it under the rug, complain about it, and pass it on…and the cycle continues. The tricky part of it all is that most of us are not aware of the impact a past difficult or hurtful relationship has had on us until we are well into another relationship. We owe it to ourselves and anyone we should choose to be with, to make it a life-long practice to work on the intricacies of our own psyche.
2. Understand that both genders have had their heartaches.Many wars are perpetuated because the factions cannot look at each other as being human. It is the practice of both genders to reflect on the crimes committed by the offending sides. They do not recognize or seem to care that we all have had experiences that harden our hearts against one another. And the result benefits no one.
3. Find positive role models to emulate.How many times do you hear the horrible stories about love relationships never working out and always ending in disaster? Look around and see what works for couples. There are many who are happy. Focus your attention on them.
4. Practice kindness (treat people the way you want to be treated). The operative word is " healthy". If you treat a well-balanced individual with kindness and respect they will return the favor. If you are not treated well in response to your kindness, get out and away and find someone that is able to respond in this way. Life is too short to put yourself with people that are not worthy of your goodness.
5. Build up your self-esteem. Some of us feel worse about ourselves overall than others, and this needs attention if it is low. Most of us have areas or issues in our lives that are gray areas, that is, we could go either way, feel great about ourselves or feel inadequate. It is important to build yourself up as much as possible, as there is a strong correlation between esteem level and happiness and success in love relationships.
6. Stop looking at other people as being the source of all of your problems. Who was it that said when we point our finger at other people as the problem causers in our lives there are four other fingers pointing at us? While it can be a bit disconcerting looking at our mistakes, it is also empowering. Once we gather up our wits and see what we have created, we can then make changes in ourselves . This is reflected in all of our future relationships.
7. Be real. Is not fair to study and use certain methods of manipulation and psychological strategies from workshops and seminars. In order to be in a healthy relationship we need to be who we really are, and not use a contrived set of learned skills to manipulate and trap a partner. In the long run, like attracts like. If we are healthy well-functioning people, we will attract that to us because anything less will not be desirable.
8. Practice discernment in your selection of romantic involvements. It is often expressed by people either getting into, or already deeply involved in unhealthy relationships, that all the signs were there - the person was not able to be in a relationship, or that the relationship was not working well. But thses people continued to stay in it. Perhaps staying becomes habit. Or, we are in denial. Or, we convince ourselves that we love the person. The truth is we are not in love. Think very carefully before even approaching or allowing someone to approach you. Find out important things about the person’s morals, values, integrity level, similariities and/or compatibility. Go slowly.
9. Stay positive! Understand that there are many nice and appropriate people out there for you. Don’t give up! Just like you are a good person and available, there are many others like you who are ready and able to be loving. We create what we believe to be true, so check yourself very carefully to see what your believe. It may take longer to meet an appropropriate person, but as you enjoy your life, and hold onto the belief that there are many people worth your time and heart, you will find them.
10. Grow up! Take responsibility for your part in the reason past relationships, or encounters, did not work. Learn from the experiences and move on.   It is a hard pill for most of us to swallow that we have some part in the reason our encounters are less than effective relationships and don’t last, but it is true!.  Some may argue that the person behaved poorly and they did all they could to make the relationship work. Yet, we initially may have chosen a person that could not be in a relationship. Perhaps we have intimacy issues, so we select someone who reflects our own fear. So it goes.  Understand who your toxic people are and stay away from them. This will give you freedom, and you can make more informed choices, figure out what it is you want and need in a relationship and create it…

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Love is painful. All guys are out for one thing. I always attract the losers. There are no good men out there. I will be alone forever. Love never lasts. This dynamic and educational workshop will help you examine your underlying beliefs about love. Understanding your beliefs can help you to invite and create the type of men and relationships you want into your life. This workshop is interactive.

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Do you think marriage is meant to last a lifetime? Do you think that it is better to live together than marry? What do you think is the best way to create a happy marriage? These issues and other important issues and beliefs will be addressed in this revealing and dynamic workshop.

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“He said that we needed to live together for at least a year to get to know one another and then we would get married.” ....“It has been five years and he has not put a ring on my finger, and we have no plans to walk down the aisle.” ….”I moved into his place and cleaned for days upon days to make his old place our love nest. About six months after we started living together, he came home and told me that he was in love with another women and they were getting married! I was devastated."  This interesting and informative workshop examines some of the pros and cons of living together. In this workshop you will learn how to be self-protective! 

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In many situations in life it is impossible to go forward without going back.  Many clients go through the same heart-breaking scenarios time and again because they have little self-awareness. This is true in the area of love relationships.  Effective guided derivational search methods and revivification can help keep clients from repeating the same mistakes.  In this fast-paced workshop your will learn effective ways to deal with your clients’ love relationships issues.  You will learn how to help them identify healthy verses unhealthy patterns, and adjust and/or modify them to make better love choices in the future.  The time-tested techniques and processes addressed in this seminar are easy to use and often produce almost miraculous results.

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It is estimated that a staggering 1 in 3 marriages in the United States will end up in divorce. Why is the divorce rate so high? Is there anything you can do about it? In this fast paced, educational and informational workshop you will be given tolls to assist you and your husband in not being counted as the one who gets divorced!

How to Enjoy the Single Life

I know a woman that wanted to buy a single bed but decided not to buy it because she thought it would somehow jinx her possibilities of meeting and marrying Mr. Right. Perhaps you know someone that has put her life on hold in so many ways waiting and hoping for “him “to come into her life and transform it. In this workshop learn how to enjoy your life, whether you are waiting for him to sweep you off your feet or not!

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The Sweet Art of Revenge

I once went to a party and met a woman that I thought was very nice, until I heard her saying she wanted to run over her Ex husband with a tractor trailer. At the time I thought that was a horrible thing to think let along say it out loud. However, when I went through divorce years ago I understood her anger and need to devise a state of revenge. It is actually very healthy and healing. In this workshop you will learn about the benefits of revenge.

Domestic Violence defining and developing strategies to create a Better Life for Yourself

Do you think yelling, cursing at, belittling, pushing, intimidating and/or actual hitting are acts of Domestic Violence? If you or someone you know is in a relationship that has these and other questionable qualities than this may be the workshop for you. We define, explore and engage in life strategy planning.

How to Spot a Liar Before He Makes Off With Your Heart!

Most woman who have been dating for awhile think that they can spot a liar, yet time and time again when they are put to the test they fail…and the liar moves in and takes their heart hostage. Learn some quick and easy to remember ways to spot even the best liar!  This workshop can lessen your changes of ever being taken in again!

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Getting Through Divorce Intact

I have heard it said that it is harder to lose your man through divorce than through death. In death you still have fond memories in divorce you may only wish he was dead figuratively!

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Other than saving all the money you would have saved in gift buying for your would be lover and perhaps his family, this workshop will assist you in exploring ways to increase your pleasure in being single around the holidays!

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If you are engaged or already married to a man that has children that you will/have inherited by virtue of marriage, this may be the workshop for you.  I will help you explore ways to improve the quality of the relationship you cultivate with your step kids!


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